I was once in this seminar about personal finances and the trainer said something that staggered me like a thunder in the middle of the night.
He was talking about how important it was to create a life you truly love living. Living your life and business around your true calling. Your life’s purpose.
He then said: “My wife and I are so blessed to share the same purpose. And by the way, it’s not our daughters”
I was absolutely shocked.
Until that point, my purpose in life was my kids
I worked and lived for my kids. I would give my life for them.
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Everything I did was for them. Our home, our car, my work decisions, my vacations… Everything in my life, every single decision I made, in the long run, was about my children.
How could that trainer (and his wife) say such a thing? Where their kids, not their priority?
This idea stuck in my mind for months. Haunting me.
One day, I came across a simple message that said something similar to this:
If you want your kids to be happy, you have to be happy. They will become what they see, not what you tell them to be.
Makes sense, right?
A mother’s greatest desire is for her kids to be happy. She wants to avoid her kids all the suffering she’s been through.
Mothers, develop that natural instinct to protect their kids. They become guardians.
And then, they get lost in the process.
They forget about themselves. Their priority becomes their child.
But, here is the thing.
Most Mothers are raising their kids to become unhappy adults without being aware of it.
They are showing them, among many other things, that…
• When you love someone, you leave yourself aside.
• Love means sacrifice.
No wonder new generation’s don’t want to have kids and a family.Our mothers taught us that having kids means giving up on your life. It meant forgetting about your dreams.
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That’s the idea that most people have despite the unconditional love mothers gave to them.
If you want your kids to be happy, YOU Have to show them how it’s done.
You need to show them how does being happy look like.
It also means you have to reorganize your priorities.
Place yourself on top of the list.
When you get into an airplane, one of the safety guidelines you have to follow is to put on your oxygen mask first before you can help others (including kids).
The same rule applies in your personal life.
First you. Then comes everyone else (including your kids).
You will teach them that life is about following your dreams. They will follow up.
Be aware you are modeling their future with your own example.
All extremes are bad
Now, don’t get me wrong.
It is not about leaving your kids with Grandma while you continue with your life.
It´s about being present and functioning in every area of life.
If we take as a reference the wheel of life from Tony Robins, your life has the following dimensions you have to take care of.
- Health and Vitality
- Mind & Meaning
- Love and Relationships
- Productivity and Performance
- Career and business
- Wealth and Lifestyle
Your life is not just about Love and Relationships.And it’s not just about your Career and Business.
You will have to work consistently on the above mentioned areas to live an extraordinary life.
Want to know the best part?
You will show your kids how to live an extraordinary life, therefore they will have extraordinary life as well.
Your Kids are your greatest motivation to follow your Dreams. They are not your excuse for not pursuing your own greatness in life.
Your Next Action Step…
First, evaluate from 1 to 10 how do you feel you are performing in every area of your life.
Start working on your weakest areas.Small changes make a huge difference in the long run.
Expand your boundaries and start living an extraordinary life.
Inspire and show your kids an extraordinary future.
An example is not the best way to teach. It’s the ONLY way!
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Did you get lost and somehow became a Supporting Actress in the movie of your own life?
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