“Kids these days just don’t listen,” you may think. But when it comes to teaching our kids to behave, think, and feel right, the opposite is true. We’re raising our children to be more like us than ever before.
Kids can be really hard to get to do anything, but there’s one thing that’s almost impossible: They’ll listen to you when you’re telling them what they want to hear. And you know what’s even worse than that? They’ll believe you when you’re telling them the absolute truth.
How To Get Your Kids To Listen To You?
Below, you’ll find the method that you can apply to make your kids or child listen to you.
Focus On the Problem – Make sure you know what your child is doing and why
Your kid is constantly getting into trouble, and it’s driving you crazy. So you decide to set a few ground rules. You’re going to make them do their chores, and if they don’t, then they won’t have any chocolate.
But the next day, the situation is exactly the same. You’re giving your kids a choice between doing their chores and having chocolate, and they’re just ignoring you.
This happens because your kids have no idea why you’re punishing them. They have no idea that you’re setting boundaries, or that they’re being punished for not doing their chores. They don’t even know that they’re in trouble.
They think it’s the only way to get chocolate. And because they don’t understand why you’re punishing them, they don’t learn to stop what they’re doing and listen to you.
Offer Them Solutions – Come up with a plan of action that will work for everyone involved
If you ask kids what they want, they’ll usually say “more money.” But you have to offer them something better to motivate them to do what you want them to do.
I was once at a party with my best friend. He was telling me about his new car, and how he had recently bought it. He then said, “It’s really cool. It’s a new model!” I asked why he thought it was a good idea to buy a new car when his old one was so nice.
He replied, “I like this car better because it has new features.”
You don’t want your kids to believe that they can get what they want by simply demanding it. You need to help them learn how to get what they want.
Set Clear Expectations – This helps kids to understand what you’re asking from them
The problem with many parents today is that they don’t know what they’re trying to teach their kids. Instead of teaching their children how to behave and feel, they’re merely telling them what to do.
In other words, we’re raising our kids to be like us, not to be like God. So while they might be getting the same lessons as we did growing up, they’re learning how to be like us in a way that doesn’t truly help them.
Kids are smart and can figure out the real meaning behind what we’re saying. But they won’t listen if we’re telling them what they want to hear. We have to teach them how to think for themselves and make their own decisions.
A lot of parents don’t understand this because they’ve been raised by parents who didn’t know any better. But you can set clear expectations for your children and make sure they know exactly what you expect from them.
As a parent, you’ll want to teach your kids to do what’s right, not just what’s convenient or what makes you happy. And you’ll want to be a positive role model so they don’t copy you. This will help them become more like you instead of like you.
Be Respectful – Show your kids you mean well and that you care
Parents are constantly battling a vicious cycle of discipline. The kids don’t listen, and the parents don’t understand why they don’t listen, so the cycle continues.
In my experience, this is why kids don’t listen to their parents. They know that they’re not being given the respect that they deserve. And when they see their parents treating their kids like crap, they lose respect for their parents in turn.
The thing is, we have to show our kids that we mean well. We have to make sure that our kids feel respected and cared for. If they’re not being treated with the love and attention that they deserve, they will rebel.
And if they rebel, then we can’t blame them. They’ve seen us treat them like crap.
We need to be respectful, kind, and understanding. We need to make sure that we show our kids that we care. Because if we don’t, they’ll always assume that we don’t care, and they’ll keep on doing what they’re doing.
Use Positive Reinforcement – If your child succeeds, they’ll do it again
Positive reinforcement is the technique of rewarding someone for good behavior. In contrast, negative reinforcement involves punishing someone for bad behavior.
The great thing about positive reinforcement is that children have a natural curiosity about the world and the people in it. It’s just a fact of life that kids love learning new things.
If you’re a parent, you probably already know that kids learn best when you give them a clear incentive for doing the right thing. For example, if your kid hits another kid, you may want to make them apologize or take a timeout to cool down. But if your kid gets a reward for being a good sport, they’ll keep doing it because they want to receive the same reward over and over again.
Positive reinforcement can be used on a daily basis to make sure your kids behave properly. For example, if your child does a chore, you might say, “Good job!” or “You really earned that cookie.”
You don’t have to be a parent to know that children are incredibly hard to motivate. There’s really only one way to get kids to listen to you—and it involves a simple trick you can use to your advantage in business and life.
The trick is to let your child know that you care about what they do. If you really care about what they do, then you will not criticize them when they do something wrong. They can learn from your mistakes and your successes. Don’t criticize your children if they do something wrong, but show them that you care about what they do. This is the best way to get them to listen to you. If you don’t show your kids that you care, you’ll have to do it the hard way. You’ll have to motivate them by yelling at them and getting in their face. That is the only way to get kids to listen to you.
If you want your kids to listen to you, then you have to be prepared to discipline them. Disciplining means that you are willing to give up some of your own freedom for the benefit of the one you love. If you are constantly giving in to your kids, they will eventually start thinking that they are the ones in charge, which will lead to a loss of respect. If you are willing to discipline your kids, then you will have them respect you more than they do now.