A child’s emotions are very sensitive to how they are being treated, even if they don’t realize it at the time. And when they are upset or sad, they need to know that someone cares enough to listen and provide a solution.
It can be tough to figure out how to communicate with your toddler or children when they are upset. But there are some important ways to make sure that you get through to them and help them feel better.
“The best way to communicate with toddlers or children when they are upset is to..”
Understand Your Child’s Emotions
Once you know what your child’s emotions are, you can then make good decisions based on the context of the moment. You know when she’s happy, sad, angry, bored, and so on. The key is being able to read her cues and understand how to best respond in each of those situations. You can’t overreact, but you also don’t want to under-react either.
So, it’s important to be able to discern between the emotions your child is expressing and the ones you don’t want to see at all. That way you can respond with understanding and empathy, instead of frustration and anger.
Find something they are interested in
While you can be sure that your toddler is listening to your every word, it’s a good idea to communicate with your toddler using a variety of means. This way, your toddler won’t get upset when you use one medium rather than another. The trick is to find something that will make them excited to hear what you have to say, but also not so excited that they don’t want to hear it. This can include books, music, playtime, etc.
Don’t yell at your Child
One of the biggest problems in parenting is over-reacting to what a child does. This is the result of having been taught by others that children can’t do anything wrong. They’re innocent and don’t have any bad intentions. Now, most parents will tell you that it’s not their fault for what they’ve done and that they’re not responsible for what the child did.
They will also say that it’s your job as a parent to protect the child from danger. The problem with this is that it’s so easy to go too far in this. When you find yourself reacting to what your child is doing at the moment, you could stop yourself and just calm down. The best thing you can do is to tell your child: “It’s okay, you’re safe” Then, give them some time to do whatever they want, even if it’s not what you think they should be doing.
Don’t hit Your Child
The biggest problem in this situation is that you are reacting in an uncontrolled way and hitting the child. It is easy to say that we should never hit a child and we should be more caring and understanding, but this isn’t a new concept for you is it? You were raised in this environment. So your brain is already wired up to believe that this is how children behave and what they deserve.
First, think about what would happen if you just did nothing. What would the consequences be? What are the worst-case scenarios? What are the best-case scenarios? What would happen if you did something else? What would happen if you hit the child? What would happen if you didn’t hit the child? Discuss the pros and cons of each option. You need to train your brain out of thinking the same old way. You need to train your brain to think in new ways instead.
Think about your past life and try to look at it differently. Don’t judge yourself for the things you can’t change. Instead, focus on the good things you have learned. You need to take a different approach and look at how your life could be improved. Look at what’s going right in your life and how this is something to be proud of. What do you do next time you get a chance to interact with a toddler
Don’t Shout
You feel like you’re always needed by your kids. You might find it difficult to let go of them, and you know they need you and love you. They cry when you’re not there. They need constant attention. You don’t mind doing things for them as much as you did before. It’s very hard to do anything else as you know they’ll be upset if you’re not around. Try to remember that your kids are human.
They want your attention just like any other child. If you shout at a child who is in a tantrum it can increase the likelihood of their acting out and make it more difficult for them to calm down. They may then become more distressed and have an even bigger tantrum. This is likely to reinforce their behavior and make it more difficult to stop the tantrum. Try not to shout at your child, even if they are making a lot of noise. You should try to be gentle and talk to them instead. Perhaps say “Stop it” or “Put your toys away now” gently. This will help them think about what they are doing.
So when you are trying to calm down a child, try not to shout. It can help them calm down more quickly and help them to focus on the task you’re asking them to do. Also, if you don’t shout at them, you won’t have to keep reminding them to put things away. In reality, I’m sure you have seen this in yourself and other people too. But as a parent, this is something you might have to struggle with and come to terms with. Don’t be afraid to try and do things for yourself and your family in the same way.
Don’t be angry
When they are so young, they don’t understand what is going on in their life. They believe everything they are told. If you have kids, you know that they really don’t understand anything. But it’s really hard to tell them that they are wrong about something. Because they will immediately feel bad about themselves, and they might also get angry with you. Tell your toddler that “I love you, but I am not happy with this”.
This will give them a chance to process this information and hopefully try to figure out why you are upset. You should also encourage them to talk to you about how they think they have made a mistake. What would happen if you tried telling them that they are wrong? Well, then they will get defensive and might even be angry with you. This is all about learning to be more compassionate and understanding of the feelings of others. This also means that you need to learn to not feel so much anger at yourself.
Do take the child’s perspective
We all know how hard it is to keep up with life when there’s a toddler around. It can be a little hard to figure out what they need. And if you’re like most people, you’ll want to give them what they need even though you know it might not be best for them. As such, you tend to lose touch with what’s really important and just end up getting distracted by the small stuff. You need to find a way of taking the toddler’s perspective.
To do this…Incorporate this into your routine. You can do this as a daily habit. Sit down and think about what’s really important to you. Then think about what would make it easier for your toddler to understand and get their needs met. Once you’ve done this, you will see how taking the toddler perspective can help you focus on what really matters. It can also help you focus on your relationships. And what that means is you’ll feel more at peace with yourself and with others.
Show them you understand
Most people who have a child, find themselves explaining something over and over again. Why is this? Because a child is naturally curious, and it’s hard to satisfy their curiosity. This means you have to repeat explanations a lot in order to get them to understand what you mean. However, a toddler is also not very good at paying attention for long periods of time. If you can’t explain something once, then it’s much harder to explain it twice or more.
This means you are doing all the work of explaining it twice or more just to get them to understand How can we avoid having to explain things over and over again? The first thing to do is to make sure they are always having fun. This will prevent them from wanting to ask questions and explore.
This doesn’t mean they should never be made to sit and learn a lesson. It’s only when you can be certain they are enjoying themselves and learning that you can feel confident enough to explain things. Make sure the fun element is always there. And that they are happy and having fun. This way, they won’t want to ask too many questions
Praise instead of correcting
When children are young, you might find yourself correcting them. You might even be thinking “he’s not listening” or “she’s not understanding”. You think they’re not listening/understanding because they don’t understand what you are saying, or they don’t appear to understand because they’re not making eye contact, or they look like they don’t care.
So if your child is a toddler, you might think that they need to be praised and encouraged for the things that they are doing that you would have praised when you were a child. But if you really think about it, it’s important to consider the fact that praising toddlers can cause them to feel like they’ve achieved something. Now think of the things your child did that you might have praised when you were a child.
They probably don’t do those things anymore. Instead, they might get frustrated when they can’t get their own way, spoil their dinner, have tantrums, make messes, laugh at inappropriate times, get upset if you don’t give them what they want. This is not to say you don’t need to praise your child. It’s just important to remember that you don’t need to encourage or praise them for things that they no longer do because it could make them feel worse about themselves.
Just try and notice the things that your child is doing that you might not have noticed when you were a child. If you notice your child doing one of these things, then you can just notice it instead of thinking “oh, they’re not listening/understanding”. This will help them develop without your encouragement and praise.
Make eye contact
It is easy to confuse what they are trying to tell you. They might not even be aware of it themselves. If you are communicating to your toddler or child then just make eye contact and wait for a response from them. They will learn that this is a normal thing for people to do when they are talking and they will get used to the idea of being looked at by you. This might sound scary and it can take time to get used to it but once you are used to it, you’ll see how much more your child will talk to you.
You want to make sure that you are communicating with your toddler in a rational, calm, and respectful way. It may sound difficult at times, but it will be much more effective and easier for you to follow this method. Like when you have a toddler who is upset about something, and you have to calmly and rationally explain to them why they have to do something.
If you yell or cry, you are going to be no help. But if you can speak calmly and reason with them, you are sure to be successful. If you have ever had a toddler who is angry or upset with you, you know how hard it is. You have to give them time to cool down, and then you have to be calm yourself. You can’t get angry or irritated yourself. You have to keep yourself cool so that you can help them feel better.